I find the notion of happiness a peculiar one.
An emotional high which everyone seems so intent upon pursuing to no end despite knowing that an overabundance of stimuli lessens the impact of that stimuli. We slave away to find “true happiness” with little to no notion of what that really means or entails. Everyone wants it, and everyone knows that someone is a smart person if what they really want in life is happiness, right? That’s the whole purpose of things, to reach a state of happiness, right?
I’ve begun to see things differently myself, happiness isn’t some place down the street that if you could just move in to that place, everything would be peachy. It isn’t some sort of mentality that someone possesses that benefits them. It isn’t something that people don’t have.
The way I see it, most people in America are happy most of the time, in some shape or style. Boredom to me is essentially a contained happiness. The sort of happiness that comes from joy that you know like the crack of your joints. It’s been there so long that you forget it’s exact meaning and lose a sense of what it is. Being bored is happy, just not in the sort of way you can appreciate anymore. Thus if you want to “become happy” it’s not a matter of pursuing things you know to make you happy and mindlessly pulling the lever until Death marches upon you. Happiness is finding a new experience of joy, finding a different path to travel down that day. Don’t think of bored as a manifestation of not being able to be happy, just that you should probably pull back the throttle on what you enjoy so much about what you’re doing and find some new way to share your soul with the world. A new experience will give you that rush of joy, not repetition of what you know you once did enjoy.
That’s the second thing I wanted to broach upon here; that people need to get over the notion that we should always be in a state of happy. Life is found in the Greys and you don’t have to live life in the duality of Happy or Sad. There’s a broad and expansive world to be found in the word “okay.” I’m okay most of the time, and that’s okay; because it means that when something comes along that really lifts my heart, I get to really feel happy and not mull around in other emotions because I’ve exhausted my supply of happy on fast food and cheap woman. Embracing the thought that Happiness is a fleeting emotion and we must love it for what it is, is terribly important. We have to embrace being Okay so we get to be Happy.
So I’ll be Okay, and that’s Okay…As long as you’re Okay
Post title from song title by Four Year Strong
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